I've been on my own for three years now after my partner left me after 11years for another woman. It seems to me all I do is work as I am struggling to bring up my two boys. I feel I have been left on the shelf. I know lots of men but all prefer me as a friend to having a relationship.

I did get with on with a married man which was a big mistake as I fell for him but he doesn't want to know now. I did enjoy myself with him but he goes with loads of women and now I'm lonely again. It would be helpful if you could advise me what to do now. I seem to be in limbo.

Nicki, Telford, Shropshire

Dear Nicki, It seem to me you're doing ok now. You're going off with all the wrong guys who are ever in a relationship or are having problems with their wives.

You are selling yourself short and handing yourself to people who don't think much of you as a person or there partners.

There is one man who likes you very much and he has seen you with, or heard about you with others he is waiting but if you don't pull yourself back from dating all the wrong men you will miss him.

Be yourself not what you think people want you to be have self respect, I guarantee when this happens this man will move from the shadows and shine on you and love you for you.