My new partner and I are having problems having a child, and have discounted IVF as emotionally I feel I'm not strong enough to put myself or family through it for a low success rate.

Adoption? Here or overseas? Or will it happen naturally? I'm fed up of waiting for an answer/sign. I took some power back deciding not to go with IVF but still don't know the route I should travel.

Kim, Wirral

Dear Kim, I would like to know, is there big babies in your family? What I mean is, when they are born are they large babies that have caused complication at birth? The reason being is that I can see a very large baby that will go over the term that's basically refusing to come out.

Don't take the problems out on your partner. Men can portray a image that they can take it or leave it. He has a good heart but he is putting a brave face on for you. It hurts him as much as you.

A grandma had children like shelling peas, it will happen for you but it's going to be bigger than a pea. Just don't rush into anything, because this baby will not rush out but he is there.